What are the most important things needed to live a good midlife?
The ability to laugh at yourself and try not to take life too seriously. Never take others actions personally. Always do your best to be calm and considerate. Have compassion but know your boundaries. It’s ok to choose you first.
Losing everything you built, after decades, can truly humble a person. This seems to be common among the middle aged, Generation X. Starting over again and again is daunting. People tend to feel, as you age closer to 50, that it’s almost over. You couldn’t be more wrong.
I’m finding that the older we get, the more certain and confident we become. You must put yourself ahead of others, to become your healthiest and best version. Spending time alone after a tragedy is important in helping you learn who you are comfortable being and being with. This makes it easier to find what is and is not healthy for you.
It’s not so much of a midlife crisis, as it is, shedding the old you and evolving. I believe they call it a midlife crisis, because not everyone evolves. As a matter of fact, the majority of people stay ignorant and stubborn throughout their entire lives. They often resent anyone evolving, because they become more difficult to manipulate. It’s ok to say no, or move on from relationships with unhealthy dynamics.
Most of all, trust your body. If you feel uneasy, there’s a reason. Stress can kill you as fast as anything else can.
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