Women stayed married until the 70’s and 80’s because they weren’t given a choice. My dad did what he thought was best because of how he was raised. Now is the time to realize that he can and should do better. He believed that without a man, life would be more difficult for me. He never took me seriously without one, never even believed in me, over any of them. Like most men his age, he believes everyone should think and feel as he does. This has always been confusing to me. He was the one who taught me integrity, hard work and how to succeed. I never understood his actions toward me. I was clearly smarter than all the men that I chose. I am a reflection of him after all. If any of them would have listened or worked as my partner, they would have been far more successful than they are.
It took me decades to realize that I kept choosing men like my father. They were all conditioned, as most men are, to believe that they are better in all aspects of life. Male chauvinism is a sexist and discriminatory viewpoint that has been ingrained in society so deeply that I’m not sure it will ever go away. It’s also why it’s so hard to find a good man, although there are many great ones. Too many don’t even know how ignorant they are. It shows in the way they degrade and belittle all the women in their lives, while claiming to love them. Men are supposed to be our leaders yet women are to blame for all the problems in society. How is that rational?
Men and women are supposed to be together because they make a great team. They’re different, not because one is better than the other, but because they need each other. Gender roles were made for this reason, so that we could use our skills to make life better together. These strict roles don’t apply anymore, people are no longer satisfied with being put into a specific box. Some women are meant to be in charge, just like some men are happy to take care of the house and kids. Not every man wants to be forced to build a house and not every woman wants to be a mother or a housewife. We actually have choices now, which seems to be driving our ancient and simple society completely mad. We, and especially our parents, have been conditioned to believe life needs to happen for us in a specific way. We now know that standard doesn’t always work for a happy life. Women are no longer satisfied with just standing by their man and smiling. Not every man is reliable or trustworthy or safe and we are tired of making our men seem better than they are. Holding men up on this pedestal means continuously sacrificing our own self worth for society. A society that mocks us, degrades us and sacrifices our health and safety in every way. Finally, women feel safe enough to speak our truth. We are tired of being shunned when we don’t go along to get along. We don’t care so much if we’re liked anymore, we’d rather be happy. I’m extremely blessed to be living in this time, it’s a true awakening for women. We can finally be happy on our own.
We all have a choice now, we are starting to come into our true selves and it can only get better! Well of course the male chauvinists don’t think so, they’re going to be called out on all of their bad behavior, unable to label us as crazy or irrational because they treated us badly. I’m excited for the future of our daughters and hope that we instill respect and decency in all of our sons, unlike ever before. No one is better than the other and we should all love and respect each other for who, not what we are.
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